Shattering the setup

 Being divorced is like being hit by a Mack truck.  If you live through it, you start looking very carefully to the right and to the left.

~Jean Kerr

Divorce is the psychological equivalent of a triple coronary bypass.  After such a monumental assault on the heart, it takes years to amend all the habits and attitudes that led up to it.

~Mary Kay Blakely

Many divorces are not really the result of irreparable injury but involve, instead, a desire on the part of the man or woman to shatter the setup, start out from scratch alone, and make life work for them all over again.  They want the risk of disaster, want to touch bottom, see where bottom is, and, coming up, to breathe the air with relief and relish again.

~Edward Hoagland

in trying to perfect,
i destroy.
in trying to love,
i create hate.
in trying to build up,
i break down.
in trying to be free,
i imprison.
in trying to gain wisdom,
i bewilder.
in trying to explain,
i confound.
in trying to try,
it seems that
i
fail.