what I can't say out loud

Dear Man,

Dangling a carrot in front of a woman just so that you can have the power to take it away is vile, whether that woman is your wife or your daughter. Your need for control is ruining your relationships.  I’d love to be able to tell you this in person, but your lack of respect for me wouldn’t allow for a meaningful conversation.  I hope you dump the anger and resentment and get your emotional self together before you lose the ones you love most. For their sakes.